Selfing is a relatively new English word, looking up in Google for "define:selfing" gives only selfing as self-fertilization or self-pollination, which are not the meaning we want to use here. Selfing here has to do with actions and feelings related to our self image, and possessions. What can we say about selfing?
Jon Kabat-Zinn (in his book "Whenever you are, there you are") describes selfing as the inevitable and incorrigible tendency to construct out of almost everything and every situation an "I," a "me," and a "mine," and then to operate in the world from that limited perspective which is mostly fantasy and defense."
This is a beautiful description, the first part says that selfing is a constant virus of the mind we have to struggle with all the time, and the second part describes the effects of selfing.
Kabat-Zinn attributes his friend Larry Rosenberg for the introduction of the word selfing.
Perhaps, if you forgive me for twisting the original saying of the Buddha, it can be said that a man can avoid not telling lies for a long time, but we can only be free of selfing for brief moments of time, before we are caught in the act of selfing.
Somehow, in the evolution of man, selfing arises from the our needs to communicate (just count how many times I used I in this post), and protect ourselves.
I am better, I am worse, I am as good as, I am the best/worst, I can make a better website, I am taller/richer, cleverer, etc. Comparisons also divide the world into good and bad, us and them,
or just indifferent.
In groups,other people would act to please us, leading to flattery, bribery and conceit
Self Delusion, the most dangerous delusion
What can we say about selfing?
This is a nice contribution, I want to share my reflections and experiences too!
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